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Showing posts with label approval. Show all posts
Showing posts with label approval. Show all posts

Monday, September 17, 2012

THE 10+ 1 BUILDING BLOCKS OF RELATIONSHIPS: APPROVAL

Welcome again to my friend, Chris Vonada. He's back with the next in his series on the 10 + 1 Building Blocks of Relationships. Visit him often at ChrisVonada.com.


10 + 1 takes a new twist today...

Approval... it's...

The award of recognition.

Or, unconditionally accepting.

This, to me, is one of the main reasons that we should be very careful about how we choose the people who are closest to us... authentic and meaningful approval comes from like-minded people, those who share our personal beliefs and traits. If we want to keep moving in the right direction, we have to be influenced by the approval of the right people. (click to tweet) It's just that simple.

In a way, when it comes to approval, we're all among the walking wounded... seeking the approval of those who we value their opinion. Having self-confidence is extremely valuable too... but, at some point, I think we would all agree that we yearn for approval.

Looking for the ultimate stamp of approval? Consider this...

"When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife." Matthew 1:24

Our numero uno most important relationship is with God. If we're looking for the ultimate stamp of approval it should be from Him. This verse from the book of Matthew resounds with that... when Mary turned up pregnant with baby Jesus, Joseph had a mind to divorce her quietly. Surely that's probably what his close friends would have told him too... but an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream (yep!!) and said, "Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins." Matthew 1:20

Sounds like a crazy dream, right? Yea, I would think so too... and so would my close friends, if I were to tell them about it and ask them for approval. Joseph probably knew, though, that all of this fulfilled what the Lord had said through the prophet Isaiah. Plus his faith in the Lord was so strong that he took the good angel's advice and ran with it. Sounds crazy... Right! I'm thinking Joseph probably didn't talk this one up with his friends... he probably took God's excellent advice... our Heavenly Father's approval, and ran with it.

Well, has God ever asked you to do something crazy? Maybe He is right now? If you're surrounded by good people consulting them would give you some feedback, for sure... but don't ever forget the most important place for us to gain guidance and approval is from our Heavenly Father. Always try to take His advice... and approval, before that from anyone else.

Remember, God made us out of dust... we're nothing without Him... He desires to have a relationship with us.

Seeking approval?

While we may not ever agree with every word or action of someone else, the underlying premise of approval is that our general sense or feeling... the vibe, if you will, that we're giving off in our approval is that the other person is good. We have a favorable opinion of them... I've got your back.

Giving your blessing...

Showing your favor...

10 + 1... Approval... remember, ask God first... and seek the advice of wise counselors...

Are you conscious of who your wise counselors are at this time?

Monday, May 14, 2012

THE 10 + 1 BUILDING BLOCKS OF RELATIONSHIPS


Today I welcome my Christian writer colleague, Chris Vonada. Chris begins a monthly post here at From Carol's Quill. I'm looking forward to reading what he has to share about relationships. I know you'll enjoy it, too.





A couple of years ago our small group at church talked about the top 10 relational needs. These needs, or building blocks to relationships, seem to be fundamental to any relationship... be it a marriage, friendship, or even within your family or work environment. Here's the list we were provided...


Top 10 Relational Needs:

  • Acceptance:
  • Affection: 
  • Appreciation: 
  • Approval: 
  • Attention: 
  • Comfort (Empathy): 
  • Encouragement: 
  • Respect: 
  • Security: 
  • Support:

I added one more to the list (a surprise that I'm saving for the end...) and Carol graciously offered to let me do this gig over the next year (one per month) here at "From Carol's Quill."


I hope you'll pray with me as I ask God to lead me in this endeavor of sharing our thoughts together on the meaning of each of these essential building blocks...


Heavenly Father, you are so gracious and loving and for that I am eternally thankful. Lord, I pray to you today that you will bless and lead our thoughts and conversation in building up your presence in our lives through these 10 + 1 building blocks of relationships, that you will guide us in your amazing and beautiful way. Thank you Lord, Amen.

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This is a guest post from Chris Vonada. Chris is an aspiring author and professional geologist, and also enjoys reading, running, anything outdoors, travel, family, friends, music and life! He writes about his passions at I’m Just Thinkin’ (http://chrisvonada.com).